Why trying to be ‘perfect’ is hurting your results, and what to do about it.
Updated: Dec 8, 2019
As a recovering perfectionist, I know firsthand how crippling the anxiety can be from trying to get everything ‘perfect’ so you can avoid failure.
Sure, we hear things all the time like “Done is better than perfect,” and “Just start, you’ll figure it out as you go.”
But if you’re a perfectionist? Actually putting those things into practice can feel impossible.
Without a doubt, perfectionism is one of the BIGGEST things I see keeping entrepreneurs stuck in their businesses (and lives, let’s be honest).
You don’t want to try something unless you KNOW you’ll succeed at it.
You have a hard time handling the ‘unknowns’ that come with entrepreneurship because you need to be in control to feel ‘safe’.
So, the best way you know how to achieve that control is to make sure everything is perfect, and you’ve planned for steps A through Z to ensure success before you start on anything.
No wonder you find yourself procrastinating on those big projects that have been sitting on your to-do list for months…
That new course you’ve been wanting to create…the mastermind you’d love to lead… that new offer that you KNOW your people need…
You’ve put SO much pressure on yourself to make it perfect that you feel totally overwhelmed every time you try to even start.
And if you’re being REALLY honest with yourself? You’re half-assing your business. You’re not giving it NEARLY your full capabilities because it feels BETTER to think, “Well, I’m not getting the results I want, but I’m also not giving it 100% of my effort and attention.” rather than the possibility of “What if I give this everything I’ve got, and it STILL doesn’t work?”
So we don’t launch the program. We don’t follow up with that lead. We’re so afraid that no one will sign up or that we’ll be rejected that we never even really try.
You guys - I know this stuff so deeply because I’ve lived it.
I’m still living it.
This is ALWAYS my work, and I work with my clients (most of whom are also perfectionist, type-a, overachievers…shocker) on this stuff DAILY. And honestly? This is probably the most important work that we do because THIS is what creates the inner transformation that allows you to to FINALLY stop feeling so scared and go after everything you want.
If you know this is something you struggle with and you DON’T prioritize this work?
If you keep yourself stuck and small in the perceived safety of perfectionism?
No strategy in the world can help you.
You have to get control over your mind first and foremost so you can DO the things you know you’re capable of and get the results you want.
And here’s where you can start:
BREAK IT DOWN.
If you want to build a wall, you have to start brick by brick. You don’t tackle the whole wall at once. So that big overwhelming project you’re procrastinating on? Break that baby down into the SMALLEST actionable steps you can so you can start building some momentum.
Don’t think about all the ‘what if’s’ and potential outcomes down the line because that will scare you out of taking action. Just focus on the one small brick that’s sitting in front of you right here, right now. You don’t have to solve all the potential problems and make all the plans right now.
Just one brick.
Remember, you’ll either succeed, or you’ll survive.
Sister, you HAVE to stop being so paralyzed by a fear of failure. So go ahead and play out all those worst-case scenarios in your head. Write them out. Get reeeeally detailed about it.
Nine times out of 10? Those things you’re worried about aren’t actually that big of a deal.
When you finally shine a light on the darkness of ‘what if,’ you take its power away. You realize this isn’t ‘do or die,’ and even if you screw up, you can recover.
So what if no one signs up for your program?
So what if that person says no?
So what if you screw it up?
You’ll LEARN what you need to do better next time.
It’s not do or die.
You need to start to TRUST yourself to figure it out, and that self-trust will build confidence, and that’s what allows you to finally start taking steps forward.
Do this work DAILY & get support.
There was a time in my business where I was so paralyzed by fear and perfectionism, that I had to play out my worst fears in my journal multiple times every single day.
I had to CONSTANTLY work on bringing myself back to reality, and out of my ‘doomsday’ rabbit hole that had me spiraling into the thoughts telling me I wasn’t good enough, nothing was working, and I shouldn’t even try.
And yes, it was hard. It is hard to reprogram your mind and shed limiting beliefs that you’ve been accepting as truth for decades. It takes time, but it CAN be done. You CAN change these things, you just have to be willing to prioritize your mindset work over anything else.
YOU are in control of you, not your fear.
And (THIS IS IMPORTANT!) don’t touch anything in your business until you’ve gotten yourself into an empowered, positive headspace.
This is where it is SO beneficial to get support. To have that outside perspective who can recognize your patterns and help you catch yourself in those negative thought patterns before they cause you to start getting in your own way and sabotage your results.
And when you combine that type of high-level mindset support with business and marketing strategies that allow you to position yourself as the go-to expert in your field and attract clients with ease? THAT is when your entire life and business will transform for the better.
If you’re ready to overcome the limiting beliefs and mental blocks that are keeping you stuck, find more ease and flow in your life and business than you ever thought possible, AND learn how to implement proven marketing strategies from someone who REALLY knows what she’s doing, then click here to book a complimentary clarity call, and let’s get you on the road to the income, impact and freedom you want, ASAP.
And, if you prefer to watch or listen to how trying to be perfect is hurting your results & what you can do to change it, check out the replay of a livestream I did on this exact topic below!